NURTURING INSTINCT

in a nutshell:

Our Nurturing Instinct motivates us to reproduce,
and care for our young.
It makes us constantly judge good and bad.
It makes us believe in, and live by absolutes -
all, none, every, always and never.

Our Nurturing Instinct is satisfied when:
We feel useful to those around us,
our children are healthy and happy.

When it isn't satisfied:
It makes us use emotional manipulation
through shame, guilt, and fear.

Given unlimited resources:
We will try to live forever,
and keep every human being on the planet
alive and healthy forever.

As Providers
It makes us bend over backwards to provide for others.
Unfortunately, it also creates self doubt
that we are not doing enough.
We can get overwhelmed by the simplest of things.

As Partners
We often kill the intimacy level
between ourselves and our partners
due to our use of shame, guilt and fear.
We have no awareness that we are doing it,
and will blame our partners for the loss
making them not want to be around us.

As Friends
It makes us bond quickly and forever
with others who also have Nurturing Instinct.
It makes us want to be friends with everyone,
but often we lose friends because of our constant judging.

In Bed
It makes us put other people's needs
ahead of our own. It makes us try hard to please,
and creates attentive and caring partners.
We are usually willing to do whatever the other one wants,
in order to make them happy.